Handling the Shifts: When Friendships Change

9/12/20241 min read

three woman looking back and facing body of water
three woman looking back and facing body of water

Understanding the Shift

Life is full of changes, and sometimes those changes affect the friendships we've cherished for years. It's not always easy to accept that someone who was once a close friend is no longer a part of your inner circle. This can happen for various reasons - differing life paths, misunderstandings, or simply growing apart. Understanding this shift is crucial to coping with it in a healthy way.

Coping with the Change

When a friendship changes, it's natural to feel a mix of emotions, including sadness, relief, or even confusion. The first step to coping is acknowledging these feelings rather than suppressing them. Journaling, talking to other friends, or even seeking the help of a therapist can be beneficial outlets for processing your emotions. Remember, it’s okay to grieve the loss of a friendship, just like any other significant relationship.

Navigating Unfinished Business

Sometimes, friendships end abruptly, leaving behind a trail of unfinished business and unanswered questions. If you find yourself in such a situation, it may help to reach out to your former friend for a conversation. This can provide closure and clear up any misunderstandings. If reaching out isn't an option, write a letter expressing your feelings, even if you never send it. Doing so can offer a sense of completion and allow you to move on.

Choosing to Move Forward

At times, you or the other person might decide that it’s best not to remain friends. This decision can be painful but ultimately beneficial. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you. Engage in activities that bring you joy and set personal goals that broaden your social horizons. Moving forward doesn’t mean erasing happy memories; it means making room for new experiences and relationships.